Archive for December, 2008

Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot.

Posted in Reflection Time on December 31, 2008 by navasha123

Yesterday, I was sitting outside watching Jasmyne and Abigail playing in the pool and I started to wonder. I am reading up on how to be a more inspiring mother and person, so why not take the opportunity and pass it on to both my daughters with the hope that they take that knowledge and use it to succeed where I have failed. That is not to say that they will not go through life without making their own mistakes but at least they would have the equipment to get up and keep moving forward when they do.

This would mean that I would need to do some personal reflection on my own habits. I am their first point of reference in terms of knowing what to do or how to react in a particular situation. I started considering what I would like them to know. If at some point I could no longer be there what would be important to know, even if they did not understand the full concept just yet as they as still very young.

Things I would like to pass on to my girls:

How to conduct themselves

Appreciation

Self control

Developing their interests

The importance of responsibilities

Caring for pets

Being charitable

How to share

Dealing with anger

Being competitive

Dealing with secrets

Being eco-friendly

Dealing with bullies

Being money wise

Having a high-quality self-esteem

Knowing basic first aid

Knowing the importance of family time

The dangers of the internet and how to be safe

How to make a well balanced meal

Sleeping over safety

The list seems rather long. I would like to think that it is achievable.

How to conduct themselves:

This is one of my most important points. I firmly believe that people who are unable to conduct themselves correctly fail before they start, in life. I have six small wishes on the manners subject.

Say please and thank you, what better way to tell someone that you really appreciate them than by saying these two little words? I also like to say it’s a pleasure if I have done something for the kids and they say thank you. To me that says that I really liked doing what I did for you. Jasmyne is fantastic at this and is not shy about asking you to say please next time you ask her for something. Abigail is on the Ta stage.

How to say thank you graciously when they receive a compliment. I often notice how kids look down and go bashful when they are told what a great job they have just done. What they should be doing is saying thank you with pride. When you do your best it is really okay to be proud of a job well done.

Cleaning up after yourself. It’s a gesture that will always be remembered. I have started teaching Abigail the basics on this already. After bath times Abigail packs toys while jasmyne hangs up the towels and picks up the washing. I really think that this is something children can learn very easily just by watching and helping their parents.

Waiting their turn and not interrupting other people when they are speaking. I know it is a major irritation for most adults. You are in mid conversation and a little voice pipes up and starts talking over yours. I have managed to curb this by having sit down meals where everyone at the table gets an opportunity to speak about their day. What I have found though is that this is considered rude when children interrupt however when it comes to adults interrupting children it is almost considered acceptable? With tears in my eyes I have to ask how is that fair?

Understanding and respecting diversity. People are different; we have so many different cultures and religions here in South Africa and all over the world. Running something down because you don’t understand it is incredibly offensive and inconsiderate. Why not take the time to understand that which is different?

How to play nicely and be a good sport. Its rather uncomfortable for everyone after a game if one person is not able to handle loosing. It creates an unfair atmosphere of tension which is not fair on the winners.

*~* Cheers to a new year and another chance to get it right*~*

Posted in Broken foot, Jasmynes first story, New Years Party, Pankcake dinners on December 31, 2008 by navasha123

We made it to 2009 with so much to look forward to!


Last night was a lovely evening, it was one of those nights I wish I could put in a box and treasure forever. We had a lovely braai with close friends and family and all I was asked to do was sit and relax. The girls were in top form and really were little angles. Little Jasmyne, even made it to midnight to see the new year in with us. Abigail decided that she would rather snuggle in a warm cozy bed.The guys ended up going out and Vaughn and I brought our little family home to rest.

When we got home we had to try sort out the mess that the storm had created. It was so powerful it managed to move the patio furniture and blew over my great big umbrella While we were outside drinking tea I heard a fight going on next door it seemed rather intense with lots of shouting backwards and forwards. Out of the blue there was a piercing scream. I got up and ran to the edge of the wall to try work out were it was coming from . Standing in the pouring rain I waited for a good 15 minutes to try find out where it had come from. I gave up in the end and heard nothing more again.

This morning I woke up at the crack of dawn to take some me tea time. It was still raining which I believe is always a good sign, just wash away that old years dust and bad karma . Everything that is new deserves a fresh start and a clean slate and why not apply that to the new year too.

I had planned a scrumptious ladies breakfast for all the ladies who, we spent new years eve with last night. I had already fried up the bacon and eggs and made up big cheerful fruit platters. While I was standing at my sink rinsing my chopping board I bumped it over right on to my right foot. I had not set up the tables yet so I ended up calling everyone and canceling the event 30 minutes before show time. I was in far too much pain to try pull it all together at that point and so it has been postponed to a sunnier day.

I ended up on my bed drugged and sore for the most of the day.My mom ran me a beautiful bubble bath and Vaughn made me some tea. After my bath I walked into my bedroom and Jasmyne was on my bed waiting for me. Very proudly told me that she had written her first book and that it was for me. I sat there mesmerized as she told her story. Jasmyne had even taken the time to put together the illustrations for each page!

I

cant remember the exact story but its something like this.

The Story Of the Little Girl Called Love

Once a long time ago in a land called south african land, lived a special little fairy girl called Love, who had diamonds on her skirt. Everyday she would go out into the town and put the diamonds in the peoples eyes. Their eyes would sparkle bright and they would smile and have love in their hearts. One day the girl called Love woke up and found she had no more diamonds left. She was sad and the town turned grey.

All the people decided that if they all took one diamond out of their one eye and shared it with a person who didn’t have they would all be happy again and their eyes would twinkle with love in their hearts!

So they did it and that is why when you see some one winking with half a smile you know that they shared the diamond that was in their eye and some of the love in their heart.

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This gesture touched me so. Such a little girl to writing an intricate and thought provoking story is out of this world. The most touching was that she had done it all for me. She saw I had some tears in my eyes after I hurt my foot and decided to do what she could to make me feel better again.
Jasmyne started another one this afternoon about a girl called Mezza who was a fix-it-all. I cant wait to hear all about it when shes done.


I have decided to declare new years day Pancake and ice cream dinner day from now on. After waking up i decided to hobble off to the kitchen to make fruit and ice cream pancakes. I had already sorted out the fruit earlier this morning and what better way to spend a holiday than eating pancakes and ice cream for dinner!!

Abigail has taken to doing everything her way, she wont eat unless she may feed herself, if I give them ice cream she will request grapes if I offer juice Abigail wants water and so the day goes. I guess I can at least say that all my children are tough enough to know what they want.

After dinner we had a chuckle. Jasmyne managed to get her father into her room and playing family with her new doll house. Then she had us both trying handstands. I do not remember when I last attempted one but I can safely say I have not lost my touch just yet. I am sure this qualifies as something I have never done yet as an adult?

Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.

Posted in New Projects, Pink Skies, Reflection Time on December 31, 2008 by navasha123

I rather enjoyed our evening last night, Jasmyne and I set up a lovely table outside while Vaughn worked in the garden. Just as we sat down for dinner the sky turned into beautiful shades of pinks and orange. It was really special to see it for just a few moments before the sun set. Evening dinners are one of my favorite times of the day. I marvel on how much conversation we are able to squeeze into one hour.

Jasmyne, bless her little heart spent the day making cards for the people I work with. I was given strict instructions to take them to work today and place the cards on each individuals desk. Abigail, has been a little offish decided that she would only have ice cream for dinner. I have a feeling we can expect more teeth to appear very soon. Vaughn is hunting down a new car. He seems to have taken a liking to the Chevrolet Lumina UTE. http://www.chevrolet.co.za/content_data/LAAM/ZA/en/GBPZA/001/images/colors/1G/Phantom_Metallic.jpg

I am planning my first sewing project. This is going to be rather daunting. I plan to sew a quilt. Who would have thought me and a sewing machine surrounded with bits of material and pins. I have a block quilt in mind for Jasmynes bedroom.
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Sitting on the patio this morning watching the sun rise I took a few moments to reflect on the year that has passed. My three cats Mango, Meow Meow and Ninja joined me. I wonder if they were reflecting too or perhaps they were spying out the birds in the garden …
I would like to think that all that has taken place, has made me a stronger person even if getting through it all was rather difficult. I have been so privileged to experience 2008 with all its highlights and low lights.

Its amazing how this one night brings excitement to people around the world. When the clock strikes 12 everyone is filled with hope, there is a sense of anticipation as new day becomes a new year. We are going to seeing in the new year with family. Vuk and Novak and kindly invited us to their new place for a braai.

I am pretty much geared up for the new year I have my budgets and meal plans, list of things to do and lists of things to start and most of all I have the courage to try again. That is what its all about, getting up dusting your knees and carrying on and who knows, maybe just maybe this time you get it right.

Don’t count the days- make the days count

Posted in A fresh start on December 30, 2008 by navasha123

I have decided to join the world of blogging. I have a list of things i would like to do before I turn 30 and that day is just around the corner for me.I think its going to be a rather interesting few months of exploring and I really look forward to the adventure that waits for me. 2008 has been a rather turbulent year, I believe a lot of it could be attributed to attitude. I am starting my new year with a fresh outlook on life.

2009 Plans

  1. Start my own blog
  2. Learn to Sew
  3. Attempt Yoga
  4. Plan my new garden and then put it into action
  5. Redecorate the girls bedrooms
  6. Start inviting friends over to my house for lunch
  7. Have an amazing family holiday at the beach
  8. Take the girls to the theater
  9. Let those who matter know
  10. Try something i have never done before

The list is long and as I go I will probably think of new things but every great idea needs a plan.
On that note I would like to with you a wonderful new year.